My birthday is coming up in two days which will make this geek bear 44 years old. The both sad and happy fact about this birthday is that it will be the third year that I have been out.
You may be wondering why happy and sad?
The answers are rather simple actually. The happy part is that I have accepted who I am and am okay with being open and honest about myself.
The sad part is layered. I am sad that I was afraid to come out for so long. I am sad that I wasted so much time in hiding. I am sad that the time in the closet makes it harder for me to feel like I fit in anywhere very well at the moment. I am sad that I didn’t come out sooner in that it might have helped others accept themselves and spare them what I went through.
This is the important thing about National Coming Out Day. It is a bold statement to the world that it is okay to be who you are and accept yourself. It is a statement that there are people out there that care and want to help you be you. Even if you are in a place where it isn’t safe to come out publicly for one reason or another, coming out to your self is that one step closer to that level of openness that you may need. It doesn’t matter what age you do it because the act itself will help you move to that next step of being a better you.
If someone chooses to come out to you today, be happy. They think you are someone worth knowing the important things about them and are a safe person to share with.
Happy National Coming Out Day!